Sunday, October 11, 2009

Early lessons learned...

After a little searching, a lot of worry and a metric F*CKTON of stress, DJC and I have booked a venue and set a date for our wedding. Believe me when I say that this was no easy feat. And its a HUGE relief to have that very large hurdle taken care of. I've honestly never been so stressed out by something in my life...not by midterms and finals, certification exams, car accidents, money issues, parental sicknesses, etc. When faced with the task of finding the perfect venue that would allow for the things that DJC and I want, I quite literally became sick to my stomach. More than once, I verbally said that I didn't want to do all this...I wanted very much to marry DJC, but I became nauseated at the thought of planning it all out. City Hall would have worked just fine. Everyone kept telling me how much fun I should be having, but I just felt ill and overwhelmed.

Single ladies, take note: No matter where you are in your relationship, its never to early to start thinking about what your ideal wedding would be like. I think part of my problem stemmed from the fact that I didn't have a clear idea of what I wanted in terms of a venue, or anything else for that matter. It should be easy, right? Girls think about this type of thing all the time. I know some ladies who have every single detail planned, and they're not even in a relationship. For them, I can imagine that settling on a venue, caterer, dress, etc, would be a breeze. But for me, someone who thought she'd never be getting married EVER, I haven't actually spent any time thinking about what I wanted. And thus, choosing a venue became a huge stress for me.

I haven't started shopping for a dress yet, but again, I find myself in the same boat. I have no clear idea what I want. The only thing I do know is that my dress will not be white, ivory, cream, eggshell, or anything resembling those colors. But as far as silhouette goes, I'm totally clueless. I faithfully watch TLC's "Say Yes to the Dress", but all of those dresses are so over the top and *totally* out of my price range. The only thing I've seen on that show that I really dig is this, and talk about over the top...sheesh! Perhaps I should start looking at dresses, or at least start thinking about how I would like to look on the big day...

The take home message here is that its always better to have a game plan when taking on a new endeavor. I had no idea what I was up against with this whole wedding thing and I'm just starting out! I know it should be fun, and I'm sure it will be at some point. But for right now, I'm just going to enjoy the relaxation that comes from knowing that we've got a venue and a date locked up. Onward...

3 comments:

[No Nickname] said...

Congrats on securing the venue! That's huge.

Weddings are stressful -- there's just no getting around it. I don't care how chill the bride and groom are, the process has been overwhelming at some point for everyone I know who's gone through it.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you for an easier, less-stressful remainder of the process and I look forward to learning about your final dress decision!

-bt

Kezia R said...

When my hubby and I got married, we discovered the joy of packages. We bought one "package" for the wedding (Tahoe, outdoors, bright clear day just after the snow, only friends and family) They took care of the liscense, the cake, the officator, the location, even the little flower thingee I carried. and all we had to do was show up. It was FANTASTIC! We bought a second package for the "at home party/reception" so our friends could join in the fun....and so I could wear the expensive dress twice dagnabit. I love packages and strongly suggest them.

onthemountain said...

congrats girl! i have only ever thought about the dress, and the music. I know which djs will play. that's it.

come by breakfast of champions January 1st. Would love to see you!